Welcome, welcome and thanks for stopping by – we’re so glad you did and know you’ll be blessed by this message 😊. This post comes from our weekly newsletter – Monday Morning Reset – where we reset our faith with the Core 4 each week:
✨1 Lesson to shape your mindset
✨1 Scripture to ground your spirit
✨1 Affirmation to speak life
✨1 Question to reflect and reset
Per the title, this message is for you if you’ve ever struggled to love someone through conflict, distance or even disappointment and maybe even said, “I love them, but it’s hard right now.”
Last week, we focused on how to break free from the pressures of perfection and embrace the special moments that really matter. If you missed it, you can catch it here.
📑 1 Lesson: When Loving People Is Hard
Have you ever found it hard to love someone who hurt you, disagrees with you, or just drains your energy? 🖐
We all know that love is central to our faith, but sometimes, it feels nearly impossible – especially when it’s a close relationship that we can’t ignore like a family member, friend or co-worker.
When these relationships are strained, loving them well feels like climbing a hill we never asked to climb.
And when it’s hard, our hearts respond in quiet ways like shutting down emotionally, holding grudges, becoming short-tempered, or even spiritual guilt for not “being more loving” because we know better.
What’s the result? We feel stuck, torn even, between wanting to obey God’s call to love, and wanting to protect ourselves from pain.
But beneath the tension, there’s usually a deeper root: fear.
The fear of being misunderstood, of being taken advantage of, or the fear that loving them means excusing their behavior, or maybe the fear that if we let go of bitterness, they “win.”
These fears creep in quietly, shaping how we show up (or don’t show up) in these situations.
So what’s the solution? It’s quite simple really and it’s the solution to most of our problems – it’s asking God to help us see them through His eyes – not perfect, but precious. Always remember that God is the perfect example for us.
It’s not about forcing feelings or pretending everything’s okay.
But we can choose boundaries without building walls.
We can forgive, even if we don’t reconcile right away.
We can choose humility in conversations, prayer over bitterness, and presence over avoidance.
Because practicing love in action often means showing kindness even when we don’t feel warm toward someone.
So this week, let’s not try to love perfectly, but to love intentionally and try to see others the way God sees them.
That might mean a short prayer instead of a full conversation, or pausing before responding, or a note of encouragement instead of silence.
That is showing love and God sees our effort, our hearts, and our growth to being more Christlike – and He honors every bit of it.
📖 1 Scripture
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8
Even when it’s hard, love has the power to heal, soften hearts, and reflect the grace we’ve been given.
💬 1 Affirmation
“I don’t have to love perfectly to love faithfully. God, help me to see others through Your eyes and lead with grace.”
Repeat this when you’re tempted to withdraw or react. Ask God for strength in the moment when it feels hard to love.
❓ 1 Question for You
I’d love to hear from you in the comment section below.
Who in your life is God calling you to love differently this week, and what’s one small way you can show that love?
Whether it’s a conversation, a prayer, or a moment of silence instead of sarcasm, trust that even small steps matter.
Let’s not aim for perfect love, just real, humble, grace-filled love. Even the smallest act done with God’s help can soften hearts and shift atmospheres. Keep showing up, even when it’s hard. He sees you. And He’s with you.
Let’s stay rooted in Christ my friend,
Nikeba
2 comments
I agree, this is very hard to do, because when I am hurting, I do not think rationally. But I find that when I pray for the person who hurt me, God takes over and miracles happen. It takes a lot of practice though.
This is spot on. It is really difficult but our actions and intentions are what really matter. We can act without feeling like it. Thanks for sharing Arlene 😉.